Yes and no.
Here’s the thing: your body is yours, and no one should dictate what you eat or how you move just to please them. If your partner is pushing you into dieting or exercising only because of appearances, that’s controlling, and honestly, it’s a red flag.
But on the flip side, health matters, and in a long-term relationship, it’s natural to care about each other’s habits and overall well-being.
Why This Isn’t a Simple Answer
I’ve been on both sides. At one point, I was 30kg heavier, and my boyfriend was still completely in love with me. He made it clear that my weight didn’t change his attraction, and even now, at my smallest, he’s just as obsessed with me as ever. That’s how I know he never cared about the number on the scale.
But here’s the truth: if he suddenly started eating terribly, stopped exercising, and became unhealthy, I’d definitely say something. Not because of looks, but because obesity and poor health are no joke.
I want him around for a long, happy life, and taking care of our bodies is part of that. And the same goes for me.
If I ever start ballooning, getting lazy, and completely ignoring my health, I’ve already told him he has the green light to call me out.
Where the Line Is
Dieting or exercising only to please your partner? No. That leads to resentment and puts your self-worth in someone else’s hands. But encouraging each other to stay active, eat well, and maintain good habits?
Yes. That’s love. It’s not about wanting a “perfect body,” it’s about wanting a partner who is healthy, strong, and able to live life fully.
My Honest Opinion
Exercising is important. Eating healthy is important. But the decision to change has to come from you, not from pressure.
A supportive partner cheers you on no matter your size, but also cares enough to gently call it out if unhealthy habits are creeping in. And that’s a two-way street.
So, AITA for refusing to diet or exercise just because my partner wants me to? No. But if you refuse to take care of your health altogether, that’s where it gets messy.
In the end, it’s about balance. Respect your body, respect your partner, and focus on health over looks.
The right person will love you at every size, but also encourage you to make choices that keep you thriving.
What do you think, is it love to accept your partner as they are, or love to push them toward healthier choices?
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